When Your Parents Don’t Understand You (Part-1)

 Hi There!

I believe almost everyone can relate to this. Many children go through a phase where they feel like their parents don’t trust them, don’t give them freedom, don’t truly understand their needs, and sometimes even favour their siblings over them.

I truly understand how much this hurts. It becomes very difficult to live in such an environment.
Especially when you start thinking for yourself, when you begin to say this is not right, or when you express your own opinions or start doing things based on your own choices, you suddenly become the worst child of the family. Everyone starts treating you differently, hating you. You feel left out, judged, and alone.

It feels like as long as you follow everything your parents say without questioning, follow them blindly, you’re the “perfect child.” But the moment you open your eyes and begin living according to your own thoughts, dreams, and understanding, you become the “worst one.”

I know many people might not agree with this, but this is the painful truth. And only someone who has lived through it can truly understand how it feels. Often, parents don’t even realize what their child actually needs from them.

Let me give you a simple example:

Just like a bird kept locked in a cage, no matter how much you love or care for that bird, it won’t matter to it because you’ve taken away the one thing it values the most: its freedom.
That bird has wings. It’s meant to fly.
And the moment it gets a chance to escape, it may never return because it knows,
If I go back, I’ll be trapped again, but if I stay, I will fly whenever I want.

However, if you let it out every day, let it feel the sky, taste its freedom, it will always return to you by its own choice.
The same thing applies to children.
They don’t want you to say “yes” to everything. They don’t expect you to ignore their mistakes.

What they want is simple:
To be heard. To be understood. To feel trusted.
Of course, when they’re wrong, they should be corrected. They should be taught the right lesson too.
But before that, talk to your children. Understand them.

“Have you ever felt this way? Let me know your thoughts — Part 2 is coming soon.”